Who are “toxic” people and what drives their behavior?
Toxic people tend to show behavior patterns that harm others. This can include physical, emotional, or psychological abuse; manipulation; neglect; constant criticism; or ongoing dissatisfaction. They often do not acknowledge—or do not care about—the negative impact of their actions and are skilled at avoiding responsibility.
They are frequently self-centered, putting themselves first without regard for other people’s feelings or needs. A strong need to control or dominate can lead to manipulative behavior.
The reasons behind such behavior vary. Some may have been exposed to toxic models during childhood and now repeat them. Others carry unresolved psychological or emotional issues that have accumulated over the years. Some simply lack self-awareness and effective communication skills.
Regardless of whether the behavior stems from stress, difficult circumstances, or unresolved problems, no one has the right to harm others. Everyone deserves respect, safety, and fairness in their relationships.
Coping with toxic people is difficult, but it is possible to learn how to protect yourself.
Practical ways to cope
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Identify toxicity.Recognizing toxic traits and behaviors is the first step: relentless criticism, manipulation, emotional blackmail, or chronic dissatisfaction.
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Set boundaries.Clear boundaries protect your time, energy, and personal space.
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Strengthen your self-esteem.Confidence and trust in your own abilities make it easier to withstand pressure. Remind yourself that you have the right to your own opinions and feelings.
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Disengage when necessary.If the person continues to harm you, it may be necessary to end the relationship—if it is possible and safe to do so. Remember: you have agency over your life and the right to live it in the way that is best for you.
Prepared for you by: Nick Voss
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